I remember the first time I tried anal sex with a girlfriend. After we finished I couldn’t sit down for over a week!
All kidding aside, we did run into some difficulties.
My then-girlfriend and I decided to try it after a long night of partying, when all the nearby stores were closed and we didn’t have any lube.
Despite what you see in porn, spitting on your dick, or licking your girl’s butthole, does not provide enough lube for anal. There’s a good chance that you physically can’t produce enough saliva to be effective. And spit has a nasty habit of evaporating.
Even if you do manage to get it in, things will quickly dry up. It’s the perfect recipe for some painful and bloody anal tearing.
If your partner isn’t experienced with taking it up the backdoor, you’re going to need lube. And lots of it.
Because I travel a lot, and have a minor addiction to buying thing off Amazon, I’ve experimented with quite a few different products. Below is my complete guide to the best lubes for anal sex. If you’re looking for a good way to make anal fun, these brands can help.
If you plan on ever doing butt stuff, Cleanstream Relax Desensitizing Anal Lube is what you want to keep on hand. It’s safe, effective, and easy to clean up after. Plus, one bottle is big enough to last you for quite some time. Keep this in your nightstand or next to your bed and you’ll always be ready for some backdoor action.
This is a desensitizing lube, meaning that helps prevent discomfort. If you’re with someone who is trying anal for the first time, this can help to make their experience more enjoyable.
The numbing effect Cleanstream Relax Desensitizing Anal Lube has is pretty minor, but it does help whoever you’re penetrating to relax and enjoy themselves. They’re still going to feel your thrusts, but any minor pain will be tuned out.
Finally, because this lube is water-based, it’s incredibly easy to clean up after. There’s no huge mess and getting some of this on your sheets won’t stain anything. Unlike some of the other products on the market, this one isn’t going leave residue all over everything it touches.
Not everyone has the luxury of keeping a huge bottle of lube on their nightstand. You might want something more discreet. If you do, Shibari Premium Intimate Lubricant is an excellent choice.
This is a water-based lube that removes friction and is easy to clean up after. However, the best part is that it’s been made out of simple ingredients so that people with allergies can still enjoy it.
For people who can’t use synthetic lube, this is a great alternative.
Many lubes have crazy components. Some use stuff like sugar, weird chemicals, and even bizarre natural substances. As a result, many users have allergic reactions. Shibari Premium Intimate Lubricant is made to be safe for everyone. It’s made from a very simple formula and you can see all the ingredients below:
“Purified Water (Aqua), Glycerin, Propylene Glycol, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Diazolidinyl Urea, Methylparaben, Propylparaben”
If you or your partner are looking for a good lube that’s safe to use, be sure to check out this one.
I actually learned about Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide from my gay friend who is a power bottom. Since he’s sort of my go-to expert on butt sex, I decided to take his word and pick up a bottle from Amazon.
My order came at just the right time. I’d recently started dating my current girlfriend, who is super petite, and trying to get in through the backdoor was near impossible. This lube helped immensely.
(This is what trying anal without the right lube is like)
If your partner is exceptionally tight or has an incredibly sensitive anus, this lube will help. One of the cool things about it is that it has a mild numbing effect that removes pain without taking away from the pleasure. Your partner can be blissfully pounded up the butt without having to feel any sort of discomfort.
On top of this, Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide is silicon-based. This means that it dries slowly and won’t give out while you’re having sex. Great if you don’t want to constantly stop so you can get lathered up again.
Lastly, for a high-end lube this is pretty cheap. There’s enough in one container to last you for quite a while. When you want premium quality for a low price, this is the best offer out there.
Do You Need Special Lubes Just For Anal Sex?
(Weird off-brand from local drugstore)
I’m currently visiting a friend in Latin America. Without going to a questionable sex shop, the only lube I could get was some no-name brand from the drugstore. While it isn’t great, it works.
In a pinch, like when you’re traveling abroad and didn’t want to take lube through airport security, you can use other brands. However, I would recommend being careful.
Certain brands are not well made. They get tacky and sticky or dry up when you’re using them. Additionally, some manufacturers still use sugar in their formulas. This is completely unsafe and can lead to all kinds of nasty bacterial infections.
Play it safe. There are already trusted brands that put out amazing anal lubes. These won’t dry out or cause an infection. Instead of experimenting around or looking for a bunch of random brands, stick to what works.
Taking lube with you on a plane can be tough. If you live in the United States, the TSA has regulations on what you can and can’t bring on your flight.
While it is safe to pack lube in your carry-on, you’re only allowed to bring 3.4 ounces worth. Any more and they’ll confiscate it.
On top of this, putting lube in your checked baggage can result in it exploding out of the container due to pressure. I had this happen once and all my good shirts were practically ruined.
Now when I fly domestically, my lube goes in the carry-on bag. It stays safe the whole trip and there’s no risk of it spilling out on to all my clothes.
Whether you’re going on vacation for your anniversary, traveling for spring break, or flying out to Vegas, get yourself a 2.5 ounce bottle of Astroglide. It’s an inexpensive water-based lube that’s thick enough for anal without being too gooey or gross. Though more functional than flashy, it will get the job done.
If you’re going to a private resort, or big outdoor music festival, there aren’t a lot of places where you can buy lube. Pick up a bottle of Astroglide, throw it in your bag and you’ll be prepared for any spontaneous butt fucking that might occur.
Side note: If you are traveling abroad, see if the country you are visiting has any regulations against sex toys and whatnot. Many places may fine you or confiscate your “offending” item. Better to buy lube after you land than to piss over the over-zealous customs agent.
Anal sex without lube can be insanely painful. It can tear your partner’s anus up, cause bleeding, and lead to infections. When you want to cram it in the rear, you need to be careful. Use lube.
Quality anal lubes like Cleanstream Relax and Pjur Backdoor can take away the pain and minimize the chances of injury. If your girlfriend is worried about getting hurt, these can help her relax and enjoy the action. And dating a girl who thinks anal is fun means you’ll be doing it a lot more with her.
Have fun, stay safe, and hopefully this lube review helped you pick what’s right for you.
P.S. If you have a lube suggestion, please feel free to leave a comment. Your input would be greatly appreciated.
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